Feb 6 3 Comments

Connected and vulnerable

My kids and cousin acting in a play about vikings.Connected?

I heard something interesting today: Connection is the reason we are here. We all want to feel connected, and when we don’t, well, it’s then that it goes downhill in a very fast way.

This resonated with me. First and foremost because I want to be connected myself. But also because I have been thinking a lot about the different groups, or tribes, or clicks, or call it what you want, people are parts of. And I have been thinking about how important it is for us all to feel like we belong somewhere. Or, to feel connected to something.

Want to know the recipe for true and deep connectedness? Read this quote from C.S. Lewis:

Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries, avoid all entanglements. Lock it safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in the casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will never change. It will not be broken, it will become unbearable, impenetrable, irredeemable. TO LOVE IS TO BE VULNERABLE.

A heart made for us by a refugee from Burma.


I think I need to go to sleep and think about this. Then i will write more about what I think. Bear with me. There is more to come….


  • Rick Granger says:

    I’m with you on this.

    We specifically “engineered” ways to connect when we got here – a small group.

    There’s usually some cultural aspect that precludes including new people – so rather than struggle against it, or feel hurt by it, we simply invite all the new people to get together and form a small group.

    It gives us a place to connect, people to care about, and people to care in return about us. It’s all right out of any of a dozen recent books about small group ministry. We need a place to connect.

    As new arrivals, we just reach out for it, open our home to it, and offer it to a handful of other outcasts (i.e. new people).

    I love it!

    And to those who aren’t welcoming me, my family, or my new friends – thanks. We got it covered.

  • Steve Gumaer says:

    I’ll take vulnerable over lonely any day!

  • lynnie says:

    Connection was my word last year!!!!! Stay connected to all my sons I said to myself. It is up to you to be a conduit, I said.. It does not always work, but you really got to make an effort at times to hold on to the feelings of connection even when you feel left out.
    I want connection but sometimes the ones I love the most do not. So I stay connected to God in prayer.Someday the connection I yearn for will happen, Not everyone is as good as connecting as others.