What better feeling than being right. I love it. It makes my day when I am right and I like to rub it in, at least a little. Poor Steve. He is still learning that when it comes to him or me being right, he will most likely lose. The kids will say: “Dad, when will you learn. Mom is always right.” “Sigh,” says Steve and tries to remember the time last year when he was right.
So now I am reading an interesting book on shame. Sad topic, but much more interesting than you may think. I did not jump for joy when I saw it either, but now I am happy I started. One of the major blocks to creativity, says the author, is the feeling of knowing you are right. Ouch, ouch, ouch. And sorry, Steve. When we think we are absolutely right, we stop seeking new information. To be right is to be certain, and to be certain stops us from being curious.Curiosity and wonder are at the heart of all learning. Says John Bradshaw.
And I say: I think there is a whole lot of truth in this. When we are so busy proving we are right there it is unlikely we are open for new information and new ideas.
So next time Steve claims that is is absolutely certain that there should be garlic in the pancake batter and that his mom was born in April some time I will look at him with interest and say: Really, honey? Well, if you say so, let’s try it. Mom will like a birthday card any time, and garlic is good for the blood pressure.