Sep 13 0 Comments

To know how to love, start loving


My girls playing with children in a village in Laos. Love needs no spoken language.

Picasso, he said: “To know what you’re going to draw, you have to begin drawing,” when talking to a friend about how to get over creative block. Isabel Allende had similar sentiments when asked about how to keep writing when you don’t feel like it: Show up, show up and show up, is what she said. I think she meant that you have to show up in front of your computer or your journal and just start writing. Even if you don’t know what to write, write anyway. If you don’t know what to draw, just start drawing.

I think it is the same with love. We often think we have to wait for the feeling of love for someone, and then we start loving them by giving flowers or chocolate, or whatever else that person needs to feel loved and appreciated. It is not so. One just has to start showing love. Sometimes that will be giving a glass of water or a meal. Other times it will be time spent listening, or talking. It may be sharing your apple, or it could be touching somebody’s hand. Love takes many forms. And love is not first and foremost a feeling. Love is an action. Love does. Love gives. To paraphrase Picasso: To know how to love, you have to start loving. 

PS. Like the new look of my blog? I do. My friend, Dave, fixed it for me, and for that I am forever grateful. Thank you, Dave.